picture credit, mine. Mount Hermon 2009
I remember emailing author Randy Alcorn after my first Mount Hermon (a Christian writers conference in California). I asked him about how he handled fame. Prior to the conference, something deeply supernatural happened to me. A flurry of memories came back to me, painful parts throughout my life. I said to the Lord, "I've endured a lot of trials."
He responded, "Yes, you have. But will you withstand the hardest one? Will you withstand the trial of notoriety?"
Those words echoed through me that first Mount Hermon. It's the conference that turned my trajectory from wannabe writer to soon-to-be-published writer. So when I came away from the conference with an agent, I wrote Randy. His assistant was kind to send me back some of the things he wrote about notoriety. This one stuck with me:
Any sort of "fame" any of us receives is for the sole purpose of building others up, of serving those God places in our lives. And beyond that, if we think of ourselves as simply servants who serve a Master, we won't mire ourselves in pride. Consider these verses:
"Does the servant get special thanks for doing what is expected of him? It's the same with you. When you've done everything expected of you, be matter-of-fact and say, 'The work is done. What we were told to do, we did." Luke 17:10 MSG.
It's that simple. When people thank me for writing a book or an article or a blog, I tell myself to simply say thanks. And then in my mind, I realize I'm just stewarding the gift God's given me. I'm doing what He's told me to do. No fanfare. No parades. Just simple obedience.
All this to say, I still struggle with notoriety. I push down pride. I fret too much about my career. And there are times I like the seats of prominence (I say this to my shame). But I'm learning, just like you are, that there's more to life than being recognized. And if, by chance, I'm recognized, Jesus makes it clear that any position just gives a broader base to serve.








26 comments:
Those are great thoughts. It's so easy to be me-focused.
I once, in anguish, told God he couldn't use me because of how much I love the center ring and attention. His simple answer was, "I know." What a relief! He knows how I am and wants to help me with that. Awesome. Great post, Mary, thanks.
Mary, this is EXACTLY what I needed to hear today. My focus during this Lenten season is getting my mind off of ME and onto GOD and serving OTHERS. I have struggled with this so much lately (pity parties, worry, looking for praise).
This post is perfect. Thank you!!
Randy is a friend of mine, and I deeply, deeply respect him as a humble servant of Christ.
Mary, thank you for sharing this. So important for all of us to remember and really get it into our hearts.
Focusing on having the mind and heart attitude of serving others helps keep life in balance and makes us feel more like we're representing God and His love. Though, it's not always easy.
I still struggle with the opposite sometimes, too. The part where you know you need to share what God has done so as to encourage others, but not feeling worthy to do so and being reminded of mistakes I've made.
So I always appreciate your honesty in sharing with all of us.
Blessings to you!
Mary, this is a beautiful sentiment. We are put here on earth to be used by the Lord. But don't feel guilt for enjoying the spotlight. God put you there for a reason. Without it, you wouldn't be able to reach the number of people that you have and do help. I have no doubt you can keep it in perspective, because of who you are.
Warm Wishes,
Cynthia
Mary, This is a great message. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for sharing this, Mary. I relate so much to what Kay shared. I have been so paralyzed by fear of pride creeping in, that I have also told God no. I know my affinity for affirmation and "the seat of prominence" and my fear of displeasing Him with my human failings leads me to tell Him that I can't be used. I am going to bookmark this, so I can come back to it often for perspective.
What a great lesson to learn. I am in a class right now where I am working on the sin of talking down about others in order to lift myself up. It's all about pride. I think that seeing myself as a servant will go a long way in seeing victory in this area.
Thanks for this admonition!
Thank you, Mary~ a wonderful reminder that Jesus came as a servant foremost. If the king came to us to serve us, then how much richer we are and equipped we are to serve.
Very simple, but, oh so, powerful.
You are awesome!
Mary:
This is so true. We have to think like Jesus did. We have to remember we are here to serve others.
Beautiful, honest post, Mary. Always with towel in hand. He makes us known to make Him known.
So poignant and full of truth.
Beautiful.
Well said. Thank you, Mary, for the humbling reminder.
These are wise words, Mary. And you're right, such a sentiment is very simple. Also very profound.
"The Servant Leader" by Ken Blanchard and Phil Hodges had a profound impact on me. One quote simply says this: "Leadership is not something you do TO people; it's something you do WITH people." A simple concept that removes me from the stage and reminds me to serve.
Well said, Mary. I his book, "Humility" C.Peter Wagner makes the point thatGod has gifted a person with skills to serve him, thus we must to do so with humility. He then suggests that having (private esteem)to serve Christ well and thanking Him for those skills is to be distinquished from soliciting compliments or endorsements for that work, which is (pride. I find his perspective helpful, as I, like others have stated in this blog, struggle with pride or the concern for pride in my service as a volunteer for Christ.
Preach it, sister! :)One other thought I have is that having a sense of humor helps in this regard - not a slapstick laughing kind of humor - but more a treating yourself lightly. I think that is a pleasant aspect of humility (if there is such a thing!)
Love this Mary. And it speaks to something I've been struggling with. I even posted using those words about how to whom much is given, much is expected as the beginning of my Lenten journey.
I don't know if you've seen my name around some of the connected parts of this blog world, (HCB, Jeanne Damoff, etc ),
but I wanted to let you know that I found your book quite by accident. It was on my list of must reads, but there it was tucked in a bin at Strand, the large bookstore in NYC where I was for a long weekend with my daughter.
Needless to say it was my nighttime and plane ride story.
I don't have the words yet to tell you how moving and powerful it was. How beautiful and strong and yet vulnerable you are.
I will be in touch again, but thought I'd share at least this.
Have a blessed and wonderful weekend.
deb
- to clarify, the books were in no particular order, and I was just casually flipping through them as they were reduced ( review copies??) It was the only one.
I think we need to carefully consider how we want to be known. At school, when kids come up and tell me they love me (because I have chosen to be known for my love for them), I turn it around by saying that it's not about me, but it's about them. My goal is to add value to their lives and has nothing to do with pride at all.
To you, Mary, and to all of our fellow writers and siblings in the Lord, we have value to add to people's lives. Let's focus on that and not worry about pride or notoriety. Let's keep our eyes on the goal and trust God with everything else.
Thanks so much for such amazing comments. I think these are all better than my post. I'm thankful to foster this kind of humbling discussion. And who knew Grandpa was following this blog?
A few years ago I went to hear John Eldredge speak at a local church. At the end he did a Q&A.
A young lady stood and told John how his book set her free and kept her from killing herself. She talked about how wonderful the book was and wonderful John was to have written it, thank you for writing it, etc.
I loved his response. He smiled and simply said, "You are worth it."
With those four words he turned the focus of the adulation back to the young woman and what God had done.
Is that your Grandpa? Sniff, how awesome.
I am simply a mother, but what you have articulated inspires me to serve my family better than I currently am, for reason different the I was.
I, too, am a mother only. But somehow, your words are always relevant. You speak of the human condition.
What a relief to me to find notable Christian authors who desire to have servant's hearts.As a soon-to-be published first time author, it can be intimidating looking up to authors of your ilk. Makes a girl feel small! But praise God, in Him we're all equal. Thank you for striving to have a servant's heart. May God bless your work!
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